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7. Irene Van Der Zande: Co-founder of kidpower advocate for safety and well being.

7. Irene Van Der Zande: Co-founder of kidpower advocate for safety and well being.

November 12, 2021

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In this episode of Untold Santa Cruz, Irene and I talk about the origins of the program and how the value of an evolving organization has pivoted to meet the moment.

1:48 Kidpower pivots to online learning in the pandemic to teach more people how to stay safe and enjoy relationships.

4:27 Kidpower teaches “relationship safety” with conflict resolution training webinars

6:28 Communicating from a place of calm, aware, respectful and persistent when needed.

8:00 Listening to people with compassion to let go of anger and move the conversation forward.

8:57 Maintaining the values of safety and respect as Kidpower grows and becomes more inclusive.

Learning through our mistakes, “You don’t have to be perfect to be great, mistakes are part of learning.

13:00 The ACES study, Adverse Childhood Experiences and how Kidpower can help people of all ages deal with stress and traumatic experiences.

15:05 Kidpower of answers and real help from caring people with experience at safety@kidpower.org

19:48 A simple question that can make a huge difference is,  “How are you doing how can I help?” 

20:50 My own sense of peace after my first Kidpower training.

22:20 How to keep yourself safe regarding the news and your spirit. “Is there something I need to know?“

24:24 The power of, “you are important and I care” 

26:53 Kidpower Mission Statement and Values lead the way forward with integrity.

27:25Kidpower works with all ages, all abilities, and all walks of life 

28:20 The incident that inspired Kidpower

30:18 The bystander effect

31:15 Ellen Bass: “The Courage to Heal” and the seeds of physical self-defense work.

3315 “I wish I could do that“

33:46 The realization that telling kids to be careful not to let strangers close is tragically not enough

34:45 The search for a better way to keep kids safe and meeting the Kidpower co-founder, Timothy Dunphy 

35:06 Kidpower is fun, not scary, and based on experiential learning, practice, then the adults started asking, “what about us?“ 

37 The power of experiential learning. We learn better when we do things, not just hearing or talking about them.

3745 Don’t just teach the children, Kidpower teaches their parents too.

3830 Irene’s empathy drove her capacity to teach.  It wasn’t easy for her to learn self-defense which turned out to be a gift to students.

39:10 Kidpower starts with the problems people are actually having in their lives from bullying to interpersonal problems within families using.

41:20 Evolution is a Kidpower value that allows the curriculum, and teaching techniques to adapt and evolve with changing needs of the communities they serve.

4305 How can we help Kidpower? Donate, Purchase a Kidpower Book on Amazon Smile, Take a class and share your experience with someone you care about!

 

46:00 excuse me let’s talk about something else.

46:45 My friend was talking about something, and you know that we are safe.

47:30 is there anything that you’ve been wondering about or worrying about a powerful question to a child.

48:15 Tapping, emotional freedom technique to reduce stress

48:30 Dealing with anxiety especially in children.

49:30 The Protection Promise on FacebookYou are VERY important to me!

If you have a safety problem, I want to know – even if I seem too busy,

even if someone we care about will be upset,

even if it is embarrassing,

even if you promised not to tell, and

even if you made a mistake.

Please tell me, and I will do everything in my power to help you.”

 

https://www.kidpower.org/

https://www.facebook.com/Kidpower.org

"1,2,3, The Toddler Years" with Amazon Smile link that benefits Kidpower

Amazon Smile link to other books by Irene van Der Zande 

Books from Kidpower

https://www.instagram.com/kidpowerca/

https://www.instagram.com/kidpowerco/

https://www.instagram.com/kidpowermexico/

https://www.instagram.com/kidpowerargentina/

https://www.instagram.com/kidpowerbangladesh/

https://www.instagram.com/kidpower_france/

 

 

6. April Stearns: When You Are “Too Young” For Breast Cancer.

6. April Stearns: When You Are “Too Young” For Breast Cancer.

July 2, 2020

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In this episode of Untold Santa Cruz: Shelter In Peace April Stearns, creator of Wildfire magazine for young women with breast cancer (Free Issue!) and I talk about:

The music for the podcast is generously provided by Ketsa the track is Multiverse Check It Out!

 

  •  2:55 The birth of the name Wildfire
  •  4:10 A family of firefighters and April's dad
  •  4:30 The possibility of new growth
  •  5:35 The road has ups and downs
  •  6:45 The story of positivity in the breast cancer community
  •  8:05 Where is my normal? The magazine came from a need
  •  9:15 “Too young for breast cancer”
  •  9:45 It was hard to find young breast cancer patients to talk to
  •  11:55 First came blogging, the opportunity to tell her story and stay connected
  •  13:15 There are many different expressions of breast cancer 
  •  13:45 She wasn't trying to be “the voice of breast cancer”
  •  14:30 She wanted to create a space where it was possible to find the others
  •  15:40 Start now, start again look for the other guides on the path
  •  17:25 The classic breast cancer trope can feel hard sometimes
  •  18:45 If you're feeling sad, there's someone else out there feeling the same way, guaranteed
  • 19:40 We like stories of triumph
  • 20:25 The importance of providing a space between “you got this” and “today is hard”
  • 22:15 Are you sure you want to stay in cancer?
  •  24:45 How family and caregivers can stay supportive
  • 25:05 Making isolation more sparkling, a huge response!

 

  •  25:55 Wildfire magazine is for everyone who is surrounding and supporting that young woman in her life
  • 28:45 The Pen Pal club and the Mister Rogers connection, “ who do I want to be in this crisis?”

 

  •  31:25 A foundation for new friendships
  • 32:45 “ Start before you are ready”
  •  33:55 I don't know what  I am doing but let's see what happens
  • 35:00 Writing Workshops!
  • 37:10 The human superpower is adaptability, pain is a great guide
  •  38:30 Trying to bargain our way back to normal doesn't work.
  •  40:23 Paying respect to the struggle
  •  41:13 There is a richness to life in the struggle and finding the others
  •  43:10 How to help? Please just be normal oh, it's a great way to serve.
  • 43:65 Telling your story makes the world safer for everyone.

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April Steans created WILDFIRE Magazine in 2015 the first magazine of its kind for young women facing life after a breast cancer diagnosis. The magazine was created by April Stearns following her own diagnosis at 35 years old.

Published every other month, featuring stories from all stages of breast cancer, from women living all over the world. Themes range from love and intimacy to parenting with cancer to body image issues after breast surgery. Available in digital and print formats. wildfirecommunity.org. "I believe that telling your story (and reading the stories of others) can be the difference between a difficult cancer experience being traumatic, and a difficult cancer experience being empowering."

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5. Erika Leonard: On parenting and homeschooling through a crisis.

5. Erika Leonard: On parenting and homeschooling through a crisis.

May 18, 2020

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Music for the Podcast was graciously created and offered by the talented Ketsa and was obtained at the Fee Music Archive . Please visit the artist's webpage for more info!

In this episode of Untold Santa Cruz: Shelter In Peace Erika Leonard and I talk about:

 

  •  2:45 Meeting and knowing your “actual" child.
  •  7:55 The Liberation of giving up cherished beliefs.
  •  10:10 Homeschooling vs “doing school” at home.
  •  10:40 As many ways to homeschool as there are homeschool families.
  •  11:20 The power of agency and choice.
  •  12:20 The power and liberation of low standards.
  •  17:15 Having personal rules can guide us through tough times.
  •  18:20 Facing challenges head-on.
  •  20:30 How to progress when there is no map for what you are doing.
  •  21:55 Expectations get in the way of reality.
  •  23:55 It's easier to keep authenticity alive than to rebuild it once it is lost.
  •  24:55 Praise, gender dynamics, and other things that can stifle authenticity.
  • 27:40 When mental health and the ability to read by the age of 18 became the gold standard
  • 31:00 “The world" found her child “difficult”.
  • 32:50 Be present with what is so, the actual world, what is actually happening.
  • 35:20 Nobody ever called me fun.
  • 36:55 The space to explore one's values.
  •  40:00 The history of human experience has been hard.
  •  40:10 Isolation vs. ISOLATION: Anne Frank a perspective.
  • 41:10 The freedom of no cohort. 
  • 43:10 Always the mother's fault.
  • 43:40 I did everything right and my life still fell apart.
  • 47:40 Behind in school does not have to mean behind in learning.
  •  48:10 Does this disruption stimulate growth?
  •  48:55 Kids are learning about this and us. What are we teaching them with who we are being in this crisis?
  •  51:00 What does this crisis say about how we are treating animals
  •  52:10 I'm accountable to my child as a 35-year-old adult.
  •  55:55 Am I qualified?
  •  57:20 A rubric for decision making.
  •  58:55 I'm not my child's friend or playmate, I'm a mom.
  •  60:00Social media is just another “place”.In every place there exists both good, and bad intent.
  • 64:10 A conversation about social media and teens. 
  • 65:00 What is the pathway to yes? It's not an age, or a date.
  • 65:15 Find the expert on the place, ask them to tell you all the ways people mess with each other there.
  •  65:40 “Common Sense” newsletter as a resource.
  •  69:40 The power of having a conversation versus “spying”.
  •  82:40 The perspective of a digital footprint.
  •  74:40 Being interested in your children's stuff doesn't mean you like it.
  •  75:40 Tell kids the truth, it does not have to be in the whole truth.
  •  “I'm so glad... “   a simple script to set boundaries powerfully yet gently while fostering connection.
  •  76:40 Talking about sex, The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo
  •  78:25 Team parenting
  •  79:40 Kidpower resources for talking to children about current events.
  •  80:55 How to talk to children about scary things they have already heard. 
  •  84:10 Gratitude + Perspective + Joy = Presence

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Erika Leonard has worked with KIDPOWER since 1985, first as a volunteer/advisor, then as an instructor, a program coordinator, and now as the Assistant Director of Community Education. She has recently taken on the role of expanding the social media presence of the non-profit organization. 

Her skills, talents, and responsibilities include:

* Leading success-based People Safety skills workshops tailored to the specific needs of people of all ages and abilities.

* Presenting to small groups as well as to very large groups in business, academic, and conference environments.

* Communicating program skills and concepts via articles, large and small group presentations, and podcasts

* Fundraising/resource development

* Training and supervision of new instructors

Specialties: * Adaptation of People Safety skills training for children, teens, and adults

* Adaptation to address special needs including developmental disability, visual impairment, hearing impairment, autism/Asperger's, and special needs affecting mobility

* Adaptation for professionals in workplace settings, providing tailored practice of People Safety skills relevant to specific work environments.

* Public speaking, presenting compelling presentations for audiences of any size 

 

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4. Mitchell Kimbrough: In the Business of Helping

4. Mitchell Kimbrough: In the Business of Helping

April 10, 2020

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3. Micah Rodler: Memento Mori with Micah or When life goes off script, a timely perspective for all of us.

3. Micah Rodler: Memento Mori with Micah or When life goes off script, a timely perspective for all of us.

March 28, 2020

A bridge conversation to pre Covid-19 fears.  A prescient perspective into the common thread of human existence, mortality.  Micah Rodler is an inspiration to his family, friends and community. His love of life is infectious even in the face of his ALS diagnosis.  

 

You can get in touch with Micah Rodler and support his cause in bringing awareness and support to ALS and research at any of the links below.

Micah Rodler on Facebook

Micah Rodler on Instagram

Rodler Family GoFund Me page

Micah Rodler Raises Spirits, Battles ALS

Micah Rodler on Linkedin

ALS Association, Golden West Chapter

 

15:30 Tremendous support and counseling from The ALS Association, Golden West Chapter

17:30 The importance of community during tough times

19:45 The Rodler Family Rollathon on West Cliff Drive, Santa Cruz CA

22:30 Wraparound model of care from the Golden West Chapter helps get assistive technology to families

24:30 On the persp[ective regarding former "problems" post-diagnosis

26:30 "Remember thou art mortal" The concept of Memento Mori

28:30 Meditation to mitigate exposure to stressors

29:30 The support and brotherhood of The Paradise Park Masonic Lodge

31:45 The importance of connection

32:00 Tribalism v Inclusivity

34:00 Tribalism and blind acceptance to a set of beliefs

37:00 The diagnosis lead limiting of bandwidth has limited the superfluous

38:15 Self-awareness of one's own bias

43:00 the power of "yet" it's not cured...yet.

 

 

1.  Andy Orsini:Fine Woodworker, The value of models, career capital, and work/life balance

1. Andy Orsini:Fine Woodworker, The value of models, career capital, and work/life balance

March 8, 2020

In this episode of Untold Santa Cruz, I sit down with Andy Orsini fine woodworker, great dad, and master problem solver.  We of course talk about the beautiful creations that he designs and builds.  We also touch on many other subjects through the lens of craft, processes, changing careers, etc.  I learned so much from his thought processes and hope you do too! His use of models to iterate before committing more resources to a project was inspiring, and I am using the concept to develop the podcast and other projects at a faster rate than I would have without the introduction.  Thank you for indulging my curiosity Andy, and thank YOU for listening.

Follow Andy on Instagram and on the web at @carpernterdaddy and http://www.andysfinewoodworking.com/

Pod music generously provide by Ketsa, song: Life Illusion

 

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In this episode, we discuss:

  • 4:00 Humble beginnings building career capital, collaborating with customers.
  • 10:30 Documentation of his process.
  • 12:00 From living in a petri dish to building with wood, the sunk cost of education versus being authentically satisfied.
  • 13:00 Working with material versus information work.
  • 16:30 Thoughts on starting to work with wood.
  • 18:30 The allure of little boxes.
  • 22:00  Zen and the joy of creating through iterations.
  • 22:30 A whimsical idea, the lap desk, and love of color in the wood.
  • 25:00 The usefulness of models in furniture design and beyond?
  • 27:00 A dad who doesn’t CAD, the ease of computer designs or the real thing?
  • 30:00 Port Orford Cedar a wood for play (stilts!)  and technical projects (shoji screens!).
  • 33:00 Work live balance and the bias against part-timers in engineering and construction.
  • 34:30 Apprenticeship and the value of scaling before leaping.
  • 39:40 More on career capital and insurance policy of sorts.

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2.  Clay Butler: A terrible plan for a wonderful career or Stay Busy – Be Useful – Live With Purpose

2. Clay Butler: A terrible plan for a wonderful career or Stay Busy – Be Useful – Live With Purpose

March 7, 2020

In this episode of Untold Santa Cruz, I sit down with Clay Butler, photographer, Dad blog author, comic strip writer and product designer.  It's a fun and broad conversation with a unique human being that lives life to it’s fullest and shares freely, the wonder he finds along the way. We talk about his unorthodox approach to a portfolio career (Shoutot to Dave Nebenski and the Portfolio Career Podcast!) built on skills that rose out of necessity and passion.  We talk about the creative process, skill acquisition, the importance of authenticity and generosity.  Some call him the Bob Ross of Adobe Illustrator!  There are links to all Caly's projects below in the show notes Thank you for indulging my curiosity Clay, and thank YOU for listening.

Follow Clay on Instagram at @twilight.ninja and @claybutlersc Twitter at@claytowne and on Facebook at Twilight Ninja or Clay Butler

Contact him directly a clay@claybutler.com or 831-566-3046 

 

Pod music generously provided by Ketsa song: Where We Are

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http://www.claytowne.com/beats-digging-ditches/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sidewalk_Bubblegum

http://www.abnormalgrowth.org/

https://www.facebook.com/twilightninjaphotography/

http://www.straightdopedad.com/

https://www.instagram.com/claybutlersc/?hl=en

https://www.instagram.com/twilight.ninja/?hl=en

https://twitter.com/claytowne

https://drinkdrnx.com/

https://www.bergbites.com/

https://www.drinkcannacola.com/

http://www.claytowne.com/beats-digging-ditches

1:15 learning on the edge of the comfort zone.

1:45 Stability v. comfort.

5:40 The goal v. the process,  How do we define success?

6:45 Ethics of ownership of art, and the Infinite Game and abundance mentality.

9:30 Non-attachment and creative work.  

12:45 Radical acceptance of one’s. own role in social situations.

14:00 The power of deliberate practice.

15:30 Pre fidget spinner coping mechanism for social anxiety.

16:30 Having a thick skin and the flow state.

19:45 The curiosity-driven mind and problem-solving in art.

20:00 The diminishing marginal returns in talent acquisition.

22:00 Discomfort of mistakes drives the work to get better.

22:30 The skill of perseverance.

22:40 The gift of teaching.

25:45 Varied ways of trusting fuels political preferences.  Abundance mentality v. scarcity. Infinite game v. finite game.

26:30 Transmutation of suffering and success.

27:45 Adobe Illustrator tutorial and the joy of contributing to others. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R5wW_65iAiU

34:00 Creativity has been hijacked by artists. Life is an act of creativity.

37:00 Flow state as a sort of therapy.

34:30 The magic and importance of a glorious morning start.

43:00 The gift of no fear and commitment.

46:15 The gift of “Yes, and.” 

47:45 The freedom of repetition. Routine provides the freedom to be in chaos.

51:00 What if….it doesn’t work.  What if it DOES?! 

53:30 Real risk v. fear 

56:30 Secrets lose their power in light

58:00 Technology is stunting growth

59:30 Authentic experiences never go out of style

60:00 Engineer addiction

63:00 Filter bubbles

64:00 People sharing his work v. likes on a page

66:00 The courage to be disliked

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